489 pity Indeed
What a man
Can do in this?
If he is beaten
On both sides
Wife says that
He cannot take self decision
Mother says that
He only listens others (which means wife)
He become like a
Dolak (pakavaj)
Beaten on both sides
Will become mad
However he tries
To escape
Till the end
He has to play this kabadi match
When his mother
Attacks him by
Saying that
He listens to only his wife
Wife retaliate by
Saying that
His mother tries to
Control him as done to his father
On the one side
The mother who was also a wife
On the other side
The wife who became a mother
Seeing this
His father is laughing
And telling to his son
Do you understand now?
Caught between
Mother and wife
The poor boy
Is shedding tears
Whatever might one say?
Man also indeed pitiable
But there is no woman
Who is ready to accept this?
Mathigiri, 16-12-18, 11.30 p.m.
Recently I witness what it means by caught between rock and hard place. Wife standing on the upper staircase mother standing in the down steps shouting at each other, the poor son cum husband sat paralyzed keeping his hands on his head. Like our TV debate both the ladies were not listening to each other but shouting towards the poor man. It is interesting to know the context. When the marriage was arranged, the girl demanded a car from his father. But the boy’s mother objected it by saying that first finish the marriage, later when money is available the car can come. But pestered by the girl, her father booked the car but unable to pay the balance. So after the marriage, when the boy received notice from the show room to pay the balance and take the car, his wife suggested to pledge her jewels to take the car. But his mother objected to it by saying that others will only blame her, asked her son to pledge her jewels and get the money. Finally he listened to his mother’s advice and brought the car. Then it becomes the bone of contention. When they took the car often, mother become irritated by saying, why waste much petrol when you have two two-wheeler (he has already has one motorcycle and scooter). But the wife said once the car came she cannot go on the two wheeler.
When it becomes a serious issue and there came lot of tension, finally when it become an issue between husband and wife, the wife told me, ‘he is a good boy but he cannot take personal decision’. But I cannot understand one thing: listening to his wife’s decision alone means taking personal decision? After several rounds of fight and argument finally in the climax when both the mother and wife shouting at the boy keeping him in between them, I watched it silently unable to do anything but writing this poem.
Are any feminist listening!
489 ஆணும்தான் பாவாம்
என்னதான் செய்வான்
ஆண் மகனும்
இப்படி இடித்தால்
இருபுறமும்
சுயபுத்தி இல்லை
என்கிறாள் வந்தவள்
சொல்புத்தி இல்லை
என்கிறாள் பெற்றவள்
இருபுறம் அடிவாங்கும்
மத்தளம் ஆனான்
இருபுறம் இழுபட
பைத்தியம் ஆவான்
தப்பிக்க எத்தனை
எத்தனம் செய்யினும்
இறுதி வரையில்
சடுகுடு ஆடணும்
தலையணை மந்திரம்
கேட்கிறான் என்று
தாயும் ஒருபுறம்
தாக்கிடும் போது
தப்பனைப் போலவே
மகனை அடக்குறாள்
என்றே தாரம்
மறுபுறம் சொல்ல
தாரமாய் இருந்த
தாயோ ஒருபுறம்
தாயாய் ஆன
தாரம் மறுபுறம்
இதனைப் பார்த்து
சிரிக்கிறான் தகப்பனும்
இப்போ புரியுதா
என்கிறான் மகனிடம்
பெற்றவள் வந்தவள்
இடையில் மாட்டும்
ஆணும் விடுகிறான்
கண்ணீர் மறுபுறம்
ஆயிரம் சொல்லினும்
ஆணும்தான் பாவம்
அதனை ஏற்கும்
பெண்தான் காணோம்
மத்திகிரி, 16-12-18, இரவு, 11.30