384 Knowing without understanding
They didn’t understand you
They cannot recognize you
Though they lived with you
And begot you
You become their (human) relative
And lived both in words and deeds (with them)
How much you have done to them
And how much you have shared with them
As milk too become tasteless
As we become familiar with it
It is pitiable that they refused to understand you
Though they lived with you.
Yet you went along with them
And become a slave to them
Then living under their roof
You grew in Grace (and wisdom)
We too become like them
Though you redeemed us
If we don’t know, that will be good for us
But pathetic is our condition as we know without understanding.
As we don’t understand even after knowing you
Now it is your duty to protect us
We come again unto you
Taking courage in it.
8-2-16, Mathigiri, 5.45 am.
We cannot and should not expect any kind of ‘thanks’ for what we do to our own family members. This is not part of our culture and tradition. Some may argue what is wrong in it by expressing our thanks and return our gratitude through words. I am not against it, but it looks very ‘artificial’ to me. Though this is a Hindu concept that everyone (particularly a male child that too a Brahmin) born with five debts (to gods, rishish (gurus, acharyas and preceptors), ancestors, fellow human beings and to the non-human world (though this is strictly assigned to animal world, I want to include nature too), I think this view is applicable to everyone.
But all these debts cannot be paid back whatever we do to them. For example, nobody can pay back the debt to one’s own mother.
But the irony in human relationship is that familiarity not only breeds contempt, but several times it refuse to understand others’ ‘limitation’ and ‘needs’—particularly those who serve us. As human, though we often become upset and ‘react’, yet we see a model in the Lord who has done His ‘dharma’ towards His family members (mother and siblings). Of course we cannot imitate Him, but when we are discouraged we can learn from His life to continue to do what we ought to do.
Several times we are doing the same to the Lord what His family members have done to Him, but blame that our own family members are doing it to us.
384 உணர்ந்தும் உணராதவர்
உணர்ந்து கொள்ள வில்லை
உன்னைப் புரிந்து கொள்ளவில்லை
உன்னுடன் வாழ்ந்த போதும்
உனையீன் றெடுத்த போதும்
சொந்தம் அவர்க்காய் ஆனாய்
சொல்லில் செயலில் வாழ்ந்தாய்
எதனைச் செய்த பின்னும்
ஏது ரைத்த போதும்
பழகப் பழகப் புளிக்கும்
பாலும் என்ப துண்மை
பழகி அறிய மறுத்ததால்
பாவம் அவர்தம் நிலமை
ஆனால் உடன்நீ சென்று
அவர்க்கு அடிமை கொண்டு
அவர்தம் தயவில் வாழ்ந்து
அருளில் பெருகி உயர்ந்தாய்
அவரைப் போல ஆனோம்
நீஅறிந்து மீட்ட போதும்
அறியா திருந்தால் நன்மை
அறிந்தும் மறுத்தால் கொடுமை
உணர்ந்தும் உணரா எம்மை
உணர்த்தி காப்பதுன் கடமை
அந்தத் துணிவால் மீண்டும்
அண்டி வந்தோம் அருளும்
8-2-16, மத்திகிரி, காலை 5.45